Socially Speaking

Red bears a strong physical resemblance to his dad, but on the inside he’s all me: his penchant for perfection, his love of learning.

Report cards came home yesterday and while he continues to excel academically his social skills have dropped even since last term. We’ve been hit and miss with social skills for years. Moving to Texas was a big step forward but now that we are settled things are going south again.

Poor kid. I’m doing what I can but truth be told social skills mystify me. I feel his pain, there is no map to navigate the classroom cliques.


6 Responses to Socially Speaking

  1. Kristi says:

    Have you tried behavioral therapy?? There are therapists out there that work with children using play to teach them….we are going to do that with one of our kids. Just a thought…

    • Zen Mama says:

      Hi Neighbour!
      I’ve requested a meeting with the teacher to try to identify what exactly is going on and how to help him. He’s significantly younger than his classmates and came in mid-year so he’s already got a few things working against him.

  2. Alyson says:

    It hurts so much to watch your kids struggle socially. There is no map for the parent either, or so it seems. I have tried behavioural stories, although not consistently, but once you know what the problem is a story that you write together that has a main character named Red, that has to deal with situations similar and does it right, might help. I was just reminded of this as Tweedle E cries a lot at school and Grade six is a little old to be doing that. Not that I want him to stuff his feelings but it makes him more of a target. Good luck and hope your meeting is fitful. Knowing is half the battle.

  3. feathersky says:

    I find, more often than not, that there is no perfect socialization behavior. It always seems to be a grass is greener on the other side of the fence situation. Sure, maybe there are kids that have an easier time talking to each other, but what other skill are they lacking that you don’t see that worries their parents? Or maybe he’s perceived as extra shy, or over emotional, or whatever–maybe in a few years that will translate into several very close friendships instead of 30 shallow friendships. Socialization can’t be measured in cookie-cutter molds.

    I think the bottom line is, he’s got good parents modeling how to properly treat each other and other friends. He’ll get there and more likely than not model the exact same behavior when he grows up. He’s just got to grow into it in his own way.

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